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What is ANGER? Is it normal.
Yes, anger is a completely
normal, usually healthy, human emotion. The problem is, when it gets out
of the range of your control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems,
even be life threatening.
For example:
Problems at work: Fights, arguments, loss of job, legal actions, etc.
Problems in your personal relationships - fights, arguments, physical
and emotional abuse.
Destructive problems in the overall quality of your life.
Anger can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable
and powerful tyrant.
But there is a solution. You don’t have to submit to this unwilling and
seemingly domineering force.
With our simple techniques, you can learn, understand and control anger.
Anger is an emotional State
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Anger varies in intensity from
a simple mild irritation at any moment in time to an intense fury and
rage,"
Anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes in your body.
The physiological results are many, when you get angry, not only will
you find your heart rate and blood pressure will soar but so will the
levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline.
What can set off anger?
Either external and internal
events. A specific person (Such as a coworker or supervisor) can set off
the emotion or an event (someone ahead of you fumbling with their purse
at a cashier, someone holding you up, a traffic jam, even a canceled flight),
or your anger can be triggered by playing over your personal problems
in your mind. If you relive a memory in your mind of a traumatic or enraging
events, that can also trigger off anger.
The EXTERNAL DEMONSTRATION
OF ANGER
Like an animal, those powerful
instincts are still alive within us. The primitive response going back
to the theory of 'fight or flight' is that one will express anger by responding
aggressively. Since earliest times, anger is a natural, adaptive response
to threats. You will find yourself having powerful, sometimes aggressive,
feelings and behaviors, which will turn on that 'fight or flight' response
in order to defend ourselves when we are attacked or run away - flight.
Therefore, some anger is necessary for our survival as a species or like
many other creatures who didn't adapt to environmental stresses, climatic
changes, etc. on this planet, over time, these species were weeded out
genetically by the stronger or more powerful creatures...
On the other hand, our society
has come a long way since cave man days. If we physically lash out at
every person or object that irritates or annoys us; you might incur physical
harm to another, yourself, even imprisonment for your actions.
HOW DO PEOPLE RESPOND TO
ANGER
People use a variety of both
conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings.
The three main approaches are
- ASSERTIVELY:
Assertive is the key word here, not aggressive. This is one of the healthiest
way to express anger and dispell the pent up feelings associated with
anger. To be assertive, you have to learn the communication techniques
to make clear your needs. An example is to make “I” statements instead
of “You” statements (“I feel hurt, when you act like this” rather then
“You act stupid!”) as stated by the respected psychologist Eugene Laslow,
Phd - and how to get them met, without hurting others.
Now, don't associate being
assertive with being demanding. Understand we speaking about being respectful
of yourself and others.
- Suppressing ANGER and
then redirecting it:
For example: Using thought stopping techniques to stop the specific thoughts
and then focusing on a more positive result.
turning it into more constructive behavior.
- Dangers in this type of response:
When outward expression is not allowedl, anger can turn inward and inward
means, on yourself.
This has been known to cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
- NOT EXPRESSING ANGERS
May lead to other forms of expression, such as passive-aggressive behavior.
An example of this would be when one gets back at othersindirectly, without
telling them why, or behind their backs or developing a personality that
seems cynical and hostile. People who are constantly belittling others,
putting putting others down, criticizing things others do, or make inapproapriate
cynical comments (constantly) have not learned appropriate skills of handling
their angers.
This can lead to damaging relationships.
One technique: Controlling
your internal responses through self hypnosis:
Through practiced self hypnosis,
it has been found you can lower your brain wave frequencies (same as in
biofeedback), lower your heart rate and let those angry feelings subside.
Self Hypnosis can help you to integrate these new behavioral patterns
and strengthen the positive responses in you.
What is Anger Management?
Anger management is the techniques
to reduce your emotional feelings and the physiological response that
anger causes.
Maybe you can't eliminate those things, people or thoughts that enrage
you but you can learn to control your response to them..
How can Hypnosis help with
Anger Management?
You will learn new types of
behavior and reacting through hypnosis whenever you encounter angry thoughts.
Where in the past you might have reacted aggressively to the situation,
we now work on programming in a new positive approach to react calmly
with a peaceful and positive solution to the situation instead of allowing
an explosion of anger.
Remember, anger serves a purpose. In hypnosis, we work to respond to the
excessive or unhealthy demonstrations of anger.
Self Hypnosis - An effective
way to lifelong Anger Management
You will learn
Self-hypnosis as part of your session to integrate these new ways of behavior,
thoughts and actions into your lifestyle, as well as mental rehearsal
of situations where you would reacting to anger in different siituations
or with different people but now integrating these new behaviors.
copyright 1998 - HurleyMethod
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